7 things you SHOULD NOT do after your engagement

We have seen a lot of posts or received advice from people on what you should do after your engagement; for instance, throw an engagement party, pick your bridal party… This time, let’s talk about what are the things you SHOULD NOT do.

DO NOT TELL THE WORLD IMMEDIATELY

Even before you share this wonderful news with your family and closest friends, allow some time to enjoy this moment just between the two of you. Being engaged is one of the best feelings you will ever experience! Stay in the lovey-dovey bubble for a little while before you start telling your family and closest friends properly, and before sharing this news with the world :)

DO NOT DIVE INTO PLANNING YOUR WEDDING RIGHT AWAY

Again, enjoy this moment! Celebrate with your loved ones and thank everyone for their blessings. Eat something nice, take a short trip for this engage-moon or savor this happy time! When you are ready, then start the discussion with your husband-to-be.

DO NOT MAKE BOOKINGS RIGHT AWAY, UNTIL YOU HAVE DEVELOPED SOME IDEAS FOR YOUR BIG DAY

Start looking for inspirations on instagram, Pinterest, blogs, and use your imagination to dream! Discuss with your fiance and family on the practicalities, the size and the budget. Then you might have a better idea on how the wedding might be held. By that time, you can start reaching out to planners, stylists and venues for their professional service!

DO NOT DECIDE ON BRIDAL PARTY IMMEDIATELY

Yes, you might have a bunch of girl friends whom you feel dear to, and he might also have a number of close guy friends. However, the size of the wedding, the budget of the wedding have to be taken into consideration before the decision on bridal party, since bridesmaids dresses, groomsmen outfits, floral accessories, or transport & accommodation (if it is a destination wedding) do contribute to the wedding cost. Have some discussion with your fiance first before you invite all your girl friends to the bridal party.

DO NOT INVITE GUESTS IMMEDIATELY

Friends and family would be very much excited about the engagement, and would likely start asking or even invite themselves to your wedding. But just like the advice with the bridal party, discuss on some initial plans on the size and budget of the wedding before making a guest list. Think deep, whether you would like or need to invite extended family, old friends, or work colleagues. Consider whether these people will be in your life in 5 to 10 years time.

DO NOT JUST ANNOUNCE WEDDING DETAILS ON SOCIAL MEDIA

The guests whom you invite would be of some importance to you, that you would like to share this important life event with them. Send out invitations properly, be it a text message, email, call and follow by a proper invitation. Try to make an effort to notify them of the details individually, and if not, you can send out a group email and bcc everyone.

DO NOT GET STRESSED and BE OVERWHELMED

Even though there are different aspects in the wedding which you need to pay attention to - the gown, the food, the drinks, the lighting, the music, the traditions… (I’ll stop naming them), the essence of the wedding is for celebration - that you will start a new journey with the man whom you are going to spend the rest of your life with. It can be a simple event, it could be a lavish party. If you need help, you can always reach out to a planner and a stylist, to make the planning stress free and help you bring your dream wedding to life!

Feel free to contact us to plan a dream wedding of yours!